Bel gave a beautiful webinar on forgiveness in March and shared these wonderful techniques with us.

Introduction:

Letting go and forgiving is one of the most powerful things we can do to assist
our well-being and happiness. When we forgive, we release ourselves from the
past and this frees us to live life fully in the present so we can fully enjoy life.
This is a true gift we can give to ourselves. Please know that you forgive
someone so YOU can be happy, not to let the other person off the hook. You
actually let yourself off the hook. Once you fully understand this it becomes so
much easier to forgive because you realise that this is the only wise choice to
make and a choice that will lead you to your own inner peace and happiness. I
have learnt this myself and witnessed the power of forgiveness with the many
people I have worked with over the years and how it sets us free.

Before you start:
Write down all the people in your life you need to forgive – parents, other family
members and everyone else who has ever hurt you. You can also write down the
names of people you want to heal your relationship with.

Forgiveness Exercise

1. Think of the person you need to forgive, or someone you want to heal your
relationship with.
2. Close your eyes and see/imagine this person in front of you. If it is easier you
can make them smaller, if they are an adult, see them as a child or make
yourself bigger.
3. Imagine you are drawing in universal light and love into yourself through the
top of your head and out through your heart. Send this person this healing
light and love, until you see them sparkling and glowing (this light and love is
to protect you).
4. Then silently in your mind, tell them everything you need to tell them. Let it all
out.
5. Then allow them to respond from their wise inner self. Keep doing his until
you have both said everything that needs to be said.
6. Ask yourself what is your highest intention for this relationship? Is there an
intention even higher than that?
7. Now float back inside yourself and search deep within your heart to see if you
are willing to completely forgive this person now, knowing that as you forgive, you release yourself from this pain you felt in the past. Then tell this person you forgive him/her and that you now let this go. If appropriate, allow this person to say to you too that he/she also forgives and that they are sorry for
the pain they caused you. If appropriate, tell him/her that you love them and
let him/her say that he/she loves you too.

You can finish here, or if you feel it will be useful you can continue with cord
cutting:

If you cut the cords, you cut your projection that you have of this person,
which allows you to see this person for how he/she is now, and not the way
he/she was in the past.

Imagine the energetic cords that bind you together, some of these cords, or
maybe even all of them, may be negative. Just notice where those negative
cords are, and now imagine a golden sword or crystal shears and cut the
negative cords first from your end, all around you, to the sides, front, back, above
you and below you, and then from the other person’s end. Then place these
cords on a fire and see how the blue-white heat of the fire cleanses all the
negative energies held in these cords away, until they are all gone. Then up from
the fire a new positive energy is rising, which is a gift to you. Notice what this
positive energy is.

Breathe the positive energy in. Let it fill your lungs, and as you breathe out, let it
flow to every cell of your being; your body, mind and spirit.

Now ask your inner wisdom: What is this person teaching me by being in my
life? Trust the answers you get.

Now thank this person for allowing you to do this healing work and wish them
well on their journey.

REPEAT for as many people as you need to including yourself!
I forgive all those I need to forgive and I forgive myself

I love myself
I am free